Do You Let the Woman Do the Work When You Pay?

The attitued that when you pay for sex you can lie there and receive all the work that the sex worker does on you is a bad thing. Why? And why do some men wonder why the women whom they pay don't deliver quality sex?  Well, let's unpack the answers. 

Like increases like
Most men always want their sexual partners to enjoy sex with them. A woman is a woman regardless of whether one pays her for sex. When a woman enjoys sex, a man feels satisfaction and achievement. Men like to be and feel useful to women. And especially so in the sphere of sex! But there will always be men whose egos are too big to give, and especially so when they pay for sex.  They lie there and take what the sex workers give.  Men with this attitude think that they pay to be entertained.  Some men say "seduce me". But how do they expect to be given the quality attitude that they crave if they're not willing to give the same?

We all respond to nonverbal communication. If you say good words but the body shows the opposite, another person will always take the message of the body.  You would too if you were on the receiving end of this.  So how does your communication contribute to the quality of your sex? Especially if you lie there and expect her to do it all? When men think that their sexual partners should entertain them because the men pay, what energy does that send?  How does that affect the responses from the women? How would you feel and respond if another person gave you that attitude in bed?

Intuition.
If someone tells you nonsense, you know just like you know if someone tells you sense. Every time you communicate you release subtle energy.  So be careful about what energy you radiate, because you'll get it back.  Examples of this are: if you're having a conversation with another person, you know if the conversation is landing well. And you know when you have an inflexible communicator!  You know intuitively from the responses in the other person's words and body.  So if you don't give in sex, this energy will hang in the air. Your partner will get the message and most likely be put off and act that way and start a vicious circle.

It works both ways
The principle is simple, yet there're many [generally unhappy] men who don't grasp it.  Why are they unhappy?  Because they come across this passive attitude from others.  But these men do not realize that they're its source - until someone tells them!  Taking is nice, giving is nicer.  If we take all the time, we end up with heaps of stuff, yet emptiness in the heart, because the stuff will lose value and we'll start searching for the next taking...  But we'll never run away from the emptiness in the heart.  The only way to break the circle and get fulfilled is by giving some of ourselves to others.

If you give, you will get more
Because if you do something nice, you'll release more loving energy.  A virtuous circle will begin - others will start accepting and loving you too. Verbal and nonverbal [even intimate] communication will start flowing. Happiness will start flooding your body and heart.  And you'll never have a dull encounter again! You'll exude more attractive energy which will attract similar partners. So start giving - and you'll start receiving!  And if you're feeling shaky, take my hand...