Holistic companion

Why do so many men buy sex? Why do so many even very young men not have success in matters of intimacy?  And why do many successful and even happily married men not know how to be intimate? It’s curious how we can be next to someone, but not with them. An example are couples in restaurants that share a meal in silence and do not even look at each other, or look at their phones.  And I'm sure that your attention has wandered while talking to someone or trying to focus.  We suddenly realize that we aren’t focusing and bring ourselves back to the moment - or not.  We also immediately notice when someone isn’t really present with us.  They think about something else, looking at something other than us.  And sometimes we find it hard to come back to the present moment and let go of what had dragged our attention away... Where are you in moments of intimacy? The answer is simple: you are where your attention is, not where your body is.  The consequences of where your attention goes are immense.  If you pay attention to intimacy, the quality of intimacy will rise. But if you sail through intimacy with the mind miles away, you'll miss the beauty and healing of intimacy. Another huge impact of your attention is your capacity to connect.  You must pay attention and be present in the moment in order to connect. We all long for connection as we are social creatures. Companionship is based exactly on this principle. Men who hire companions don't buy sex. They buy con... Read More

Identity fraud occurs in every field and aspect of life. That is why I always educate men that anonymity won't get past me.  Nor will withheld numbers, false names, and all other strategies that men employ to protect their identities from women in roles similar to and very different from mine.  I empathize with men's intention to protect their identities when they don't yet know me. And I agree with their cautious approach. But they can see details down to the size of my breasts all over the net. So me having their full real names, phone numbers, and email addresses must surely be fair. In the States high end companions and women playing other roles are notorious for wanting their prospects' home addresses, work details, drivers' licences, and even passport numbers!  [God bless America!]  We all want to protect ourselves.  This is also why I encourage men to do their research. And I practice what I preach, hence do mine. I've always had a naturally inquisitive mind which could never help bringing out the detective in me.  And here's one time when the detective struck gold! The story of identity fraud: One day I received an email from a banker working for one of the big 5 Canadian banks downtown Toronto. The message instructed me to call his work number before 5:30 p.m. because "his mother was a bitch" and "after 5:30 his mother would be on his ass".  &... Read More